How To Thursday - Writing The Best Man's Speech

Posted by Darren Dunne on May 08, 2014

How To Thursday brings you Do it Yourself Advice for Your Wedding Day

This week is How to Write A Best Man’s Speech.

Did you know the term “best man” dates back to the times when Scotsmen kidnapped their future brides? The friend of the groom who had excelled at the abduction was acclaimed to be the best man.

As the best man, it’s your duty to get up in front of a large crowd and toast the bride and groom. It’s up to you to get it right and not embarrass the couple, bore the guests or ruin the day. No pressure! Writing a great best man speech isn’t as hard as it looks though. A little patience, creativity, humour and charm is really all you need to craft the perfect speech and wish the couple all the best on their big day. Here are some pointers to help get you started.

The Beginning

Start off by introducing yourself, as not everyone in the room will know who you are. You might say:

"Excuse me everyone, if I could have your attention for a moment. I'd like to take a few moments to say a few words about our bride and groom. I'm John Smith, Patrick's best man and long time good friend".


“Excuse me everyone, if I could have your attention please. I have prepared a few words about the bride and groom. My name is John Smith and I’m Bob’s best man and brother/son/uncle”.

A quick joke, quote about marriage or even a few lines of a poem is a great way to get people's attention. However, before you get too far into your speech, remember to thank the people hosting (usually the parents of the bride). If the bride and groom are paying for the wedding themselves, simply say:

"We're all delighted to be here today on this joyous occasion."

The Middle

Here is where you should tell a funny story about the bride and groom, give your thoughts on love and marriage, tell the story of how they met, or talk about how you've seen them change throughout their relationship. Try not to talk too long as people will start to get bored. Your speech should usually take no more than 5 minutes.

Remember, you’re addressing grandparents as well as children, close and distant friends, the couple’s relatives, and perhaps a mix of traditional and more liberal people – so keep your speech clean, free of private jokes, references, and also bad language.

Finally, don’t forget to elaborate on the groom’s virtues. For example, talk about his loyalty, compassion, or ways in which he proved to be a great friend to you. Tell the guests that you know how much he loves the bride and that he’ll make a great husband. Be honest and sincere – words from the heart mean more than any number of jokes.

The Close

It's tradition to finish your toast with a wish, blessing, or a traditional toast. Raise your glass with resounding congratulations, or cheers and don't forget to drink to your own toast! Now enjoy the rest of the day!

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